Back in sophomore year of college, my roommate had a bad break up with a guy that she had been on and off with for two years. During the first three months of their break up all she would play is Wake Me Up When September Ends by Green Day, on a constant loop. I wish CDs or records were popular then because I would have smashed it into bits after the first month of her playing it nonstop. Unfortunately, Limewire and iTunes were blowing up during that time, so everything was digital. Needless to say, my other roommates and I had to endure the pain and the slow death of this great song for months. As Billie Jo Armstrong’s soft spoken lyrics and hypnotic guitar chords rang throughout our fifth floor dorm room, we beat our heads in with pillows every time it came on.
Why do we feel the need to play a song so much on repeat till we can barely stand it anymore? It is because we connect with it in some way, but to someone else it becomes a song they can never listen to again. Think about the radio. When a song first comes out and you hear it for the first time on the radio, you just can’t wait to hear it again. So, you switch stations until you find another station that is playing it. Ultimately, it becomes popular, gets numerous requests, and becomes a song you can’t stand anymore that you turn off the radio every time it comes on.
What happens between the time you hear the song and the time you can no longer stand the song? I’m going to let you in on a secret – Your life changes. Last year, I was obsessed with the songs Blank Space (Taylor Swift) and Steal Your Heart (Ross Lynch – Austin & Ally). I think back to this time last year and realized that a boy had re-entered into my life that wanted to get into a serious relationship with me. I had no interest in getting serious with anyone as I had plans to move to Los Angeles by the end of the year. So, my love life became a game instead where I could “steal your heart” and “…I got a blank space baby And I’ll write your name.” Do I listen to either one of those songs currently? Nope.
Now, my new obsessions are Stitches (Shawn Mendes) and Black Magic (Little Mix), but not for the reasons you think. Yes, these songs reflect images of love, but to me, love can be for anything or anyone. I have been feeling a little broken lately, and these two songs make me think of being whole again. As friends get married, have babies, move out of state, or make career adjustments, it becomes difficult to stay in touch. You miss people that use to always be there that you took for granted. You question your own choices like you are doing something wrong. I’m not making excuses for anyone because if you truly want to stay in touch with someone you will make an effort. Even if it is a phone call two years later, or a text message that says “Remember the time we were singing La Vie Boheim in our dorm room with mops and throwing pixie stick sugar at each other? Those were good days! I miss you!” Needless to say, these two songs remind me that anything can be mended with time, a good friend, or having your family closer. To those who feel a little broken, know that you are stronger than you feel, you will mend quicker than you think, and that those people who have always been there, will always be there; even if it is just a memory. Sometimes, you need to kill a song or two to get to a good place.