Everyday can be a struggle when you feel that fear has a hold of you. Fear to move on. Fear to love. Fear of the unknown. When your a child, that fear doesn’t exist. You trust without a thought. You love with no regret. You believe that you can do anything. So, when does that fear become an emotion that grasps on so tight that it becomes difficult to move, to breath, or to hold on to reality? Human nature makes us believe that everything is black or white, good or bad, but sometimes there is a grey area that gets forgotten about when people’s actions can be carried by the emotion of fear. Fear can lead to regret, heartbreak, and resentment. Why do we allow this emotion to control our actions? Why can’t our mind go back to our childhood and block out that four letter word?
Society connects with stories about the underdog. The person that was never meant to make it because of one thing or another. Is anyone truly an underdog, or do we create these immortal men and women hoping to hold on to something that is better than our own lives? The people that are important in our lives make us believe that the impossible is possible, but no matter how many people believe in you means nothing if you don’t believe in yourself. When fear takes hold, you can feel stuck. Almost like no matter which why you go, what action you make, you are going to fall through that crack in the floor and not be able to recover.
Over the years as I have watched the people around me change. You notice their personalities change the most as they get older. You let people go that maybe you should have held on to while others became more important in your life that started out as acquaintances. You watch your parents, the people that literally could scare you with one look become these 50-something year old people of a totally relaxed mind-set. The anger that you once saw when you would do something bad is no longer there. Instead it has been replaced with a calm mind-set that it is now your life and your choices to make. I have to say that I have been struggling with fear a lot lately. Not fear of failure or fear of making mistakes, but fear of never being truly happy. I’m not an emotionally driven person. I do things based on thought and a lot of planning. I don’t like to fly by the seat of pants in any situation and I have always thought fifty steps ahead of everyone else in the room if something doesn’t go according to plan. I usually can tell someone how something is going to play out in any situation and 95% of time I am correct. This is not me gloating, but more to show you that the people that may look like they are tied together in every way, feel the same fear that you do; they may just be less publicly emotional about it. In Eminem’s song “Guts Over Fear” he raps:
“Do I really belong in this game? I pondered
I just wanna’ play my part, should I make waves or not?
So back and forth in my brain, the tug-o-war wages on
I don’t wanna’ seem ungrateful or disrespect the artform I was raised upon
But sometimes you gotta’ take a loss
And have people rub it in your face before you get made pissed off
Keep pluggin’, it’s your only outlet
And your only outfit so you know they’re gonna’ talk about it
Better find a way to counter it quick and make it, ah
Feel like I’ve already said this a kabillion eighty times
How many times can I say the same thing different ways that rhyme?
What I really wanna’ say is if there’s anyone else that can relate to my story
Bet ‘cha feel the same way I felt when I was in the same place you are
When I was afraid”
The best songs that we connect with are about emotions that we feel everyday and fear is just one of many, but I feel that it can be the strongest one of all to either make us fight or fall in this world. Everything you want, desire, and need is on the other side of that fear; so let it go. Sometimes the best you can do is take it one day at a time and get up each morning to Eminem’s “Not Afraid” because no matter how alone you feel, your not.
“And I just can’t keep living this way
So starting today, I’m breaking out of this cage
I’m standing up, I’ma face my demons
I’m manning up, I’ma hold my ground
I’ve had enough, now I’m so fed up
Time to put my life back together right now!”